Have you ever told your child NO, for good reason, then s/he got so upset you were told, “You don’t love me. I hate you.” Children need to understand that NO does not mean you do not love them.
The best approach is to tell your child no and explain to them why you are saying no, if you are not agitated and if warranted. If you find yourself agitated, please take a minute to calm yourself then explain your reason. Keep in mind that no one, adult nor child, can hear when you are screaming at them in anger! Always remember we are very large to our little people and a towering giant screaming at the top of their lungs while standing over them can be terrifying, plus ineffective. Talking in a calm, rational, stern voice works every time.
When you are explaining, only explain your reason for saying no, not your action or attempt to defend your action. To protect your children you have the right and responsibility to keep them from harm. The way to do that many times is to say NO to some requests. Keep your answer short and concise. You are not on trial and do not have to justify wanting to protect your child.
Love your family as our SMAA family grows together!
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